Relationships are special. It isn’t a walk in the park. Relationships are demanding, in one way or another. It needs careful nurturing, warm gestures, caring, understanding, patience, and an inconceivable amount of love.
And, with so much of emotional investment going into the building of a relationship, each one of us wishes it to be the “one true love” that will last a lifetime. But, what happens when this same relationship turns toxic? Are we ready to make the hard choice?
53% of the marriages in the US end up in divorce! (SOURCE: BUSINESS INSIDER)
The US might not be the leader in terms of divorce rate, but the figure is scary high. And, this is the case where arranged marriage isn’t as prevalent as in other eastern countries such as India, Bangladesh, Pakistan, and others. So, what is the problem? Why can’t more than half of the couples, who built up their relationship while facing countless challenges, and finally getting married, are unable to make it work until the end? The problem is deeper than often realized!
89% of the population in the US believes that love in a relationship can last a lifetime! (SOURCE: STATISTA)
It’s such a charming thing, isn’t it? A majority of the population believing in the power of love should be great news. Well, it can be, ideally speaking. But the world isn’t ideal and we have years of growing up learning about a fairytale world listening to stories speaking of “happily ever after”. While positivity is a great virtue, most of us fail to see the reality until it hit us hard across the face. And the result is this exceptionally high divorce rate.
Having a loving and caring relationship is as much important as it is to understand that when a relationship is turning toxic. Most often than not, we are so in love with the idea of being in love that we fail to see that the pillars of the foundations on which the relationship should stand are actually crumbling. And, then we make the final attempt at making it work. We decide to get married. A selfish and utterly foolish decision, because then we are condemning every soul related closely to us, and those that are going to be introduced to this world later on, to the vile of a doomed marriage.
End the relationship the right way
Yes, having a relationship for a lifetime is beautiful and precious, but not every relationship works out. Here’s what you need to do to end it the right way and in time.
1. Prepare yourself mentally, emotionally and financially
Give it a good thought before calling it quits. The decision to end your relationship should be done with a clear head and logically. Prepare your mind and heart for what is about to follow. Do not forget to make sure that you are financially independent too if you were dependent on your partner.
2. Let your decision known in person
Give your partner the respect of saying all that you have to say in person.
Never break up over a mail, text or letter.
3. Choose a private place to make your decision known
Breakups are hard and often embarrassing, not to mention heartbreaking.
Select a private place that will make you both comfortable.
4. Brace yourself for questions and reaction
Your partner will react to your decision and will probably through numerous questions at you.
Expect them and handle them with maturity.
5. Establish clear boundaries
We might not always cut off a person completely from out life.
It is best to establish clear boundaries and make it clear that what is right and what isn’t.
6. “Let’s be friends” is a risky step
I will say this, don’t try to remain friends. This often ends up in complicated situations, causing more harm than good. There’s no point going back to being friends when the relationship didn’t work.
In the end, remember, every relationship is precious. Breaking up is hard for everyone involved. But carrying on a toxic relationship is even worse. Try to make the relationship work and give it everything you got, but learn to know when it is over. Do not drag it to the point where all you have left is bitterness! You owe yourself better!